Juggling family and work is actually easy once you know how. It is essential that you are organized and that your family understand that your working time is your working time. I cannot stress how important this is. When I started freelancing, I knew that in order for me to do well and succeed, I had to set clear boundaries.
It was imperative that I was organized and had clear bedtime routines for my 6 year old and my 1 year old. For me, I work best when my children are asleep - so I don't have any distractions when working. Luckily both of my kids are in bed by 8pm and do not get up until 8am in the morning. My baby also takes two naps during the day for a total of 2hrs and 30 mins.
I am up around 6:45am every morning and have about an hour of work I can easily get done before the kids are up. This time is usually spent on admin, marketing and updating my blog. I use my baby's nap times to get the housework, cooking and other chores done and any spare time is spent working. But the majority of my time is spent working in the evening. I start work around 8:30pm and work up until midnight and beyond depending on what I have on.
On average, I get around 5 hours of work time a day, which is ample for me. I refuse to work full time because my little one is far too young and would definitely need some form of childcare. I take little one with me shopping and for long walks in his buggy so I get a workout too. Too much time spent at a desk is bad for you.
If you intend on working full time, make no mistake about it - you seriously need childcare of some sort. Perhaps you may decide that a babysitter would be a good idea. Many women have a baby sitter come to their home and look after their children in a different room while they work from their office. This can work really well for you as long as your children understand that mummy is working and should not be disturbed.
You may decide to put your child in a nursery, but bear in mind that this is expensive as well as inconvenient because you have to get your child ready and drop them off, wasting valuable writing time. If your partner is working part time, get them to look after your children.
If you think you can dangle a baby on one knee and work at the same time, you seriously need to think again. I strongly recommend you have an early bedtime for your little ones so that you can work in the evening. I know of some women who do a 'childshare'. This is when you look after a friend's child for a few days a week, and your friend returns the favour by looking after your child for a few days too.
This particular scheme can work really well because you do not have to worry about paying high childcare fees, and you get a few full days to work. In the UK, if you and your partner are working for more than 16 hours a week, you may qualify for childcare support. Ring your local tax credit helpline to find out more.
Finally, working for yourself requires some serious commitment and your family have to support you in your decision to do so. I have a rule that unless I have guests that have come from another city, I do not make allowances for anyone. If people turn up at my place in the evening when I am working, I let my husband deal with them. If I stopped for every person that popped over, I would never get anything done.
You have to make it clear that your work time is YOUR work time and just because you are at home, it doesn't mean that everyone can disturb you. Set your ground rules and stick to them no matter what. You will find that once everyone gets used to it, they will respect your time and will not bother you while working.